usually it's the men who are screaming, "tell me how to get her going!" It's nice to see a woman asking this question for a change.
often men is stimulated sexually by what he sees, men tend to respond to visuals, while woman tend to respond more to what they hear and feel, some men do need to be touched or cajoled into action more directly. the first basic rules is to ask. Ask him what he likes, needs and wants as a turn-on. Try doing this at a quiet, intimate time (but not necessary in the bedroom).for example, you might initiate a disscussion over coffee about what each of you finds to be turn-on, if your men need to be touched, then any form of gentle, careful and caring caressing of his genital and even his nipples, should do the tricks. You can do this with your hands, of course, but you can also use your mouth or even your breasts. believe me, it will work..